How To Quit Your Job (The Anxious Persons Guide to Quitting)

by Ashley Hufford on February 3, 2013 · 4 comments

Until last week I had never quit anything, not really. Nothing that was formal or required “notice,” nothing that actually mattered. But last week I got a real grown up job (sorry for vague blogging, I’ll explain more when I can), I realized that I had to quit my current seasonal one. It was a short process really, but the 12 or so hours that lead up to the meeting with my boss were arguably the worse 12 hours of my life. But it’s over. I survived and I learned some helpful tips and tricks:

Pre-Break Out

1. Don’t Freak Out- You are not the first person to quit a job. You will be okay. People understand stuff like this….I wish I had said that to myself. Instead I did a lot of crying, a lot of ranting to friends and family and I worked myself up so much that I got physically ill. My stomach churched, my face broke out, and I was really shake-y.

2. Know Who To Quit Too At my job I had a supervisor and two bosses, which got me really confused, I emailed one and they would tell me to email the other and I honestly had no idea who I should speak too. Finally I just emailed all three asking to meet one of them for a meeting, that got the ball rolling which was all I needed from there

3. Do It In Person I really REALLY wanted to do this by email. I hate confrontation and I hate having to wait, but everyone convinced me otherwise and overall I’m glad I did. I know work appreciated it and I felt a sense of accomplishment “post-break up.”

4. Write A Resignation Letter-I wrote and rewrote and rewrote and rewrote mine till I realized that my final and original were essencial the same letter. But other then the fact that writing the letter is courtesy, it also helped me sort my thoughts and figure out exactly what I wanted to say and how to say it well. If I had gone into the meeting without it I probably would have stumbled my words and burst into tears, but having the letter to hold and look at helped me maintain my calm.

During Break Up

1. Just Say It - I didn’t know how to start this meeting and I knew it would come and sort of a surprise so I when I actually sat down with my boss, I didn’t have any clue what to say.”Last night I was offered a Full Time position, and I am hereby tendering my Resignation” is what I wish I had said. What I ended up with was a “so um I like really enjoy working here, but I uh cant work here because I got a full time job and yea. I’m sorry” I then revised it to, “Sorry, Let me explain. I got a full time job offer and I am accepting it.” but I had already said that nonsense before so I doubt I really saved myself much.

2. Be Kind, but Be Firm - Okay my mom will disagree with me on this one, but unfortunately we live in a world ruled by companies. Companies who will drop me without a second look or another chance and in a way it has forced us to do the same. I couldn’t do two weeks notice. I was lucky to give them three days notice. I made it clear I felt horrible about this and that I would do anything they needed to help in the transition, but I also made it clear that at the latest my last day would be Friday. I knew it was unprofessional, but I had to make what I could do for them clear.

Post Break Up

1.Clear Your Computer I am paranoid that people will get on my stuff so I erased all the history of every browser, I deleted ever application I uploaded and I cleared my trash close to 20 times. The last thing you want is for your boss having access to your email, no matter how kind they are…bad things will happen.

2. Write Thank You Notes- I wrote thank you emails. Looking back a hand written note would have been nicer, but I was to embarrassed/desperate to get out of there that I just wrote a quick email. It doesn’t have to be much, but it at least is a good gesture.

IF ALL ELSE FAILS
Remind yourself of this thing that my friend Zoara said, “They can’t make you do anything, YOU ARE QUITTING.” Yes burning bridges is bad and obviously you don’t want to leave on a bad note, but if it happens, it happens…and it’s going to be okay

Here is a copy of my Resignation Letter (sans description/names)

Dear Boss

Please accept this letter as formal notification that I am resigning from my
current position. While I have quite enjoyed my time here, I have been offered
a Full Time position at another corporation and cannot pass up this opportunity.

While I understand that two weeks notice is standard, I would very much
appreciate if you would release me from employment as soon as
possible, as my new position has asked me to start as soon as possible. I would be glad to
provide any assistance I can during this transition.

Thank you for the opportunities you have provided me during my time here.
I have learned skills that I will take with me in the future.
It is a wonderful place to work and I will be sad to leave it.

I enjoyed working with you and wish you well in your future endeavors.
Sincerely,

Ashley

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  • http://blogyoureabouttoread.blogspot.com Lauren

    1) I really like your letter and will probably steal it someday.
    2) For full time positions the letter is more than just a courtesy. Having never had to write one at one point, the first full time position I quit I was like “im not going to do it, I will if ‘Boss’ asks me to.” He asked me to. For HR purposes (I think so you can’t try to scam unemployment from them). But I suppose that may vary company to company.
    3) It took everything I had not to cry. I think I did a little but I had other stuff going on that had like 10% to do with the quitting. But I’m a stress cryer so I probably would have no matter what.
    4) Definitely hard not to freak out. It helps if the resignation doesn’t come out of nowhere but that’s not always the case because not everyone hates the job they’re quitting.
    5) this comments is uber long.

    • http://www.seeashrun.com Ashley

      Haha I just saw this today ( i need to figure out how to get comments emailed to me or something!) But yea I am a major stress cryer so it took everything in me not to curl up into a ball and cry like a small child…..but i didnt so win me!

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